August 2009
1 post
April 2009
3 posts
“My mother is on Match.com,” Melvin said. “So there’s no way I’m going to be on...”
– Craigslist’s Casual Encounters Section Draws Sexual Risk Takers Through Anonymity (NYT)
Unfriend Zone
dearoldlove:
I’ll always stay in your social networks, so I know who to exclude from mine.
“Humans may be advertising themselves more efficiently. But they still have the...”
– Facebook’s “In-House Sociologist” Shares Stats on Users’ Social Behavior
March 2009
2 posts
“Facebook is trying to teach members to use privacy settings to manage their...”
– Facebook at 5 - Is It Growing Up Too Fast? - NYTimes.com
via datainsightsideas, who says: Yes, because enabling privacy settings turn into more of a “headache” to the common user (particularly the exploding 35+ demographic) when they are hidden behind a deceptively simple (yet, really complex) UI.
“Our focus should not be on emerging technologies but on emerging cultural...”
– Henry Jenkins, Professor of Comparative Media, MIT, and author of Convergence Culture: When Old and New Media Collide From a slideshow on Gerd Leonhard’s Music 2.0 site (via, via anthropophagous)
February 2009
4 posts
blogs (via twenetysomethingtales)
Customs Officer at airport: (examining passport) What is the purpose of your visit?
twentysomethingtales: Pleasure
Officer: And what will you be doing here?
TST: I'm visiting my [boyfriend]
(Officer eyes [TST] suspiciously)
Officer: And...you live in America? And he lives here?
TST: Yes
Officer: How did you meet
TST: ....um...online.
Officer: Online?
TST: Yeah, well he reads my blog...I read his...
Officer: (laughing) Blog? I've got to start reading those blogs.
Gmauled
dearoldlove:
I kept you in my life long enough to get dumped by email twice.
Matt: so, on a panel at SXSW, huh? what about?
Nick: "sex lives of the microfamous"
Matt: so, "who's screwing who among the who's not quite who"?
“Perhaps a person armed with technology could keep track of 10,000 people, but...”
– Emmet Labs Blog » 25 Relationships that Matter
January 2009
6 posts
“Anonymous geoshagging is not what I had in mind when I imagined what the GPS...”
– Mat Honan, I Am Here: One Man’s Experiment With the Location-Aware Lifestyle
Yeah Yeah Yeahs - Maps (Live) / The Hype Machine →
OkCupid.com: What an UNbelievable JERK! →
nickdouglas:
As seen on Reddit and Digg: Girl goes on bad OkCupid date, posts about date on OkCupid forum. Hilarity ensues.
For added lolz while reading, keep in mind what he looks like.
On Foucault and confession
86400:
In The History of Sexuality, Part I, Foucault talks about a need to confess. He talks about it in a very Catholic sense. A personal, anonymous unburdening of our shame and the permission to be forgiven about it. I’m not going to go quote hunting now, so you’ll have to do the research on your own to see if I’m remembering it right.
This has always struck me as sort of myopic— something...
This American Life 88: Numbers. →
When she began working as a temp secretary in San Francisco, learning the computers, wasting time, Andrea put together a graph with Microsoft Excel. Its title: My Love Life: A Ten Year Span. (.mp3)
December 2008
9 posts
“Starting any personality-based business is difficult, particularly when Nick...”
– from Reblogging Julia (via nickdouglas), which attempts to make sense of the business of internet celebuladies. Did we ever say who our team is? Hi, our team is: Melissa Gira Grant on bass, Nick Douglas on vocals & uke, Sarah Dopp on drums, and Mark Resch on whatever he likes, and not Tumblr.
“One-fifth of teenagers surveyed have sent or posted nude or seminude pictures or...”
– The Boston Globe
November 2008
11 posts
“Chart-like diagrams such as bar, plot, line diagrams and spider charts,...”
– Gestalten - Hi-Res Film: Data Flow, with a video trailer of this book, the first item on Boffery’s Xmas Gift List, yes, please.
“She said nothing then, her lovely mouth otherwise engaged, until he came, all...”
– Don’t worry how well you can tell your sex stories. John Updike writes bad sex scenes every year.
“Si chiamerà Boffery e sarà il primo social network a permettere la mappatura...”
– Repubblica (Italy)
Watchsocial network for two :: animation by alyssa timon :: music by zefrank
"Can’t Keep Track of Your Sex Life? The Internet...
A nice context-happy Boffery mention in the Village Voice.
The Comments You Get When You Write A Sex Blog
Lena Chen of Sex and the Ivy:
Some of my friends think I’m crazy for keeping a list of all hookups, penetrative or not. But with, um, admirers like these, having a Word document to turn to for reference doesn’t hurt.
(Not that I wouldn’t recall otherwise. My sexual history is as memorable as it is prolific, though not always memorable in a good way.)
heh… obviously you don’t remember me, Elle....
“There are no BAD vaginas. Please for the love of God just fucking squat over a...”
– Meaghan O’Connell: VAGINAS.
October 2008
12 posts
“Q: Wait… I just realized… People will be writing about me on here,...”
– Boffery FAQ (just posted!)
“Compared to other SNS or blogging sites, LiveJournal has a very rich set of...”
– LiveJournal Academic Research Bibliography, Alice Marwick
“Tech developers… I implore you… put privacy information into the...”
– apophenia: Putting Privacy Settings in the Context of Use (in Facebook and elsewhere)
“If we’re a generation happy to click-through to a lover’s status message on...”
– inSPOT STI e-cards have a 60% response rate (Sexerati, via nickdouglas)
“How, then, should we read the correlation between the rise of Facebook and the...”
– “Of Facebook and Porn” (via Viviane, via reversecowgirl)
Is playing with a dildo the same now as drawing a map? Dare I (Melissa) say, the Boffery ethic of sex is to both embrace the awkward parts, and illustrate how definitely connected we are.
WatchNostalgia (view original): Erica Minton tells Boffery the story of her First Time, and what icicle lights can do to her.
This is the second of many “first time” videos on the Boffery Channel on Vimeo.
Soon we’ll be asking our private beta users to talk about their first times — first kisses, first vibrators, first time they found the clitoris — but you can already...
September 2008
26 posts
“Referencing overseas sexual exploits and throwing a “yikes” in there to make it...”
– Shambles - Imagine someone looking at your map ten years…
“Imagine someone looking at your map ten years later and seeing a high...”
– The Soft Lounge Blog » Blog Archive » Boffery.com-does ANYONE think this is a good idea?